We were at a beautiful wedding at the weekend in the Shropshire countryside. I can’t wait to share more about what I think made it such an amazing day, but if you haven’t seen it yet you can check out the sneak peek video here! Onto my number one rule for wedding planning…
Everyday I see a steady stream of people asking questions from ‘When do I have to send my Save the Dates?’ to ‘Do I have to wear heels?’ and everything in between, on the Brides Facebook groups! There’s so much advice out there for wedding planning. But here’s my number one rule that I think applies to every decision you’ve got to make…
Be Kind & Be You!
You could apply this to just about anything. But when it comes to wedding planning I want to give you full permission: as long as you do it with kindness, every decision you make should be yours!
For us, our wedding day was about two things: enjoying getting married and celebrating all the people who made us, us! While you’re planning your wedding have a think about what the main thing for you is. Maybe you just want to have fun. Or you want to celebrate all the things that make you unique. Or you’re foodies so having good food is the main thing. (I mean who doesn’t want good food?!)
Work out your main thing, focus on that. And then make every decision yours. It’s okay to listen to other people’s thoughts and advice, but ultimately this is your day! So be kind and be you!
I honestly believe that your wedding should tell your story, and you shouldn’t just take a one-size-fits-all wedding day and try to squeeze yourself into it! There’s no right or wrong way.
You know what was really important to us for our wedding day? Spending time with our people over good food. And unique to us: our families have known each other longer than we’ve been alive. That meant it was really easy for us to chuck out the usual seating plan and let people sit wherever they wanted to, move around and help themselves to the tastiest BBQ & pizza buffet you ever did see! We got the relaxed wedding breakfast we were after and we didn’t have to create a seating plan (yes, I know – HUGE win!)
I’ve never enjoyed dancing (this took me 3-4 years of dance classes and a bit longer to realise) and the thought of swaying awkwardly with Brad in front of everyone was an absolute no! So we didn’t do it! But we are up for a laugh so we had a game of Mr & Mrs instead.
There’s no need to upset people, you don’t need to burn bridges, but as long as you’re kind about it, make your day yours! Be you!
Everyone will have their opinions about your wedding day. And it seems everyone likes to share those opinions! That’s why it’s important to know your focus, so you can turn down the noise, and make clear decisions that will lead you to your best day ever.
I really hope your day tells your story! And you get to enjoy every moment!